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ALERTA DE SEGURIDAD: El uso de una computadora puede ser identificado y actividades en la internet nunca pueden ser totalmente eliminadas del disco duro. Si piensas que tu uso de computadora posiblemente esta siendo monitoriado favor de encontrar un  lugar seguro donde puedas navegar la red social, por ejemplo la casa de una amistad confiable o la biblioteca publica. O llama a nuestra  linea de Violencia Domestica disponible las 24 horas al 707-255-NEWS (6397) si te encuentras en el Valle de Napa, o a este (800) 799-7233 si te encuentras fuera del Condado de Napa. Si estas visitando nuestra pagina y necesitas salirte rapidamente a una pagina no relacionada, oprime el boton rojo de ESCAPE arriba en la esquina de la mano derecha y seras desviado/a. Favor de probar este función en su computadara AHORA MISMO para asegurarse que se sienta comodo/a usando esta función.

Los servicios de NEWS están disponibles para todos, independientemente del estatus migratorio.

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NEWS is here to help!

NEWS is committed to supporting victims of domestic violence and sexual abuse, especially during this time of unprecedented transitions and health concerns. Out of deep respect for our employees and their families, we will be altering our services slightly. For the time being, we will be pausing the ability to take walk-ins at our administrative office, and will be seeing clients by appointment only. In no way will our commitment to providing safety, hope, healing and empowerment for survivors of domestic violence and sexual abuse be minimized.

The NEWS Emergency Shelter programs remain operational 24-hours a day, and we continue to provide safe housing, emergency counseling, and emergency needs to victims escaping violence.

If you, or anyone you know, needs to access NEWS services at any time, please have them call our 24-hour help line (707) 255-6397 for immediate assistance. Also, you may continue on to our website or email us.

Thank you for your understanding and consideration,

Tracy Lamb
Executive Director

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Los servicios de NEWS están disponibles para todos, independientemente del estatus migratorio

¡NEWS está aquí para ayudar!

NEWS se compromete a apoyar a las víctimas de violencia doméstica y abuso sexual, especialmente durante este tiempo de transiciones sin precedentes y preocupaciones de salud. Por profundo respeto por nuestros empleados y sus familias, modificaremos ligeramente nuestros servicios. Por el momento, estaremos pausando la posibilidad de realizar visitas sin cita previa en nuestra oficina administrativa y veremos a los clientes solo con cita previa. De ninguna manera se minimizará nuestro compromiso de brindar seguridad, esperanza, sanación y empoderamiento a las sobrevivientes de violencia doméstica y abuso sexual.

Los programas de Refugio de Emergencia de NEWS permanecen operativos las 24 horas del día, y continuamos brindando vivienda segura, consejería de emergencia y necesidades de emergencia a las víctimas que escapan de la violencia.

Si usted, o alguien que conoce, necesita acceder a los servicios de NEWS en cualquier momento, pídales que llamen a nuestra línea de ayuda las 24 horas (707) 255-6397 para obtener asistencia inmediata. Además, puede continuar en nuestro sitio web o enviarnos un correo electrónico.

Gracias por su comprensión y consideración.

Tracy Lamb, directora ejecutiva de NEWS

707-255-NEWS (6397)





What is Domestic Violence?

In California the Penal Code defines abuse as “intentionally or recklessly causing or attempting to cause bodily injury, or placing another person in reasonable apprehension of imminent, serious bodily injury to himself or another.” Domestic Violence is the term applied if you are abused by your spouse or a former spouse, someone you live with or used to live with, someone you are dating or engaged to, or someone with whom you have had a child. It’s important to remember, though, that while not all abuse is considered a crime, it’s impact can be devastating to the victim.

Abuse can be physical, emotional or sexual.

Emotional abuse may include:

  • Verbal put downs
  • Jealousy
  • Threats to you, your children, or your pets
  • Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you wear
  • Isolating you from others
  • Humiliating you
  • Crazy-making mind games
  • Following or stalking you

Physical abuse may include:

  • Damaging property, punching holes in the wall, throwing objects, kicking doors, or any violent loss of control
  • Driving recklessly with you or your children in the car
  • Threatening you with a weapon or using a weapon to hurt you
  • Forcing you to leave your home
  • Keeping you from leaving a room or your house
  • Hurting your children
  • Hitting, pinching, shoving, punching, or hurting you in any way

Sexual Abuse may include:

  • Sexual insults or name calling
  • Forcing or manipulating you into having sex against your will
  • Demanding sex when you are sick or in pain
  • Forcing you to do sexual things you’re uncomfortable with
  • Hurting you during sex

Other Kinds of Abuse may include:


  • Attacking the your spiritual beliefs or misquoting scripture to justify abusive behavior


  • Withholding money or not allowing you to work
  • Controlling all of the money or making you account for every penny
  • Ruining your credit
  • Forcing you to sign documents that you don’t want to sign or don’t understand


  • Threatening deportation of you or your family members

Destructive Acts

  • Killing or harming your pets
  • Destroying property, especially things that are meaningful or special
  • “Accidentally” ruining things you like

Some of these behaviors can be prosecuted as crimes, others cannot. If you’re thinking that you’d like to report domestic violence to the police but aren’t sure, you can talk to a Domestic Violence Counselor at NEWS who can help. You can call for advice even if you want to remain anonymous while you figure out your options. We can connect you with an advocate who can help you talk with a law enforcement professional to make a report.


+ Show all Domestic Violence FAQ's
  1. How can I make it stop?
    The first step is to understand the cycle of violence and that you can only control your own actions and choices. Support groups and counseling can be very helpful in gaining insight into your relationship and empowering you to make decisions about your safety, your right to be treated with respect, and your future.
  2. What causes people to abuse their partners?
    There are many factors that may contribute to why abuse occurs. Mental health conditions, drug and alcohol abuse, or financial stress may be some of the contributing factors, but are not necessarily causes. Often patterns learned as children may play a role in why the abuse occurs. It is never the victim’s fault when the abuse occurs; the abuser is responsible for their behavior. We encourage you to keep the focus on what you can do to make the best decisions for your own health and safety. NEWS can help by discussing options and resources.
  3. Is Domestic Violence really that big of a problem in Napa County?
    Domestic Violence here in Napa County is, unfortunately, very common and the effects are far-reaching. At NEWS, we see approximately 1,000 victims of domestic violence each year, and we know that many more people are living with abuse who have not made the decision to talk about it openly. Family violence is one of the most common calls to law enforcement (an average of two calls a day) and one of the most frequently prosecuted crimes in our local judicial system. It is one of the primary causes of homelessness. It effects children in their ability to learn, feel safe, and socialize. For teenagers, it contributes to drug and alcohol abuse, youth violence, and teenage pregnancy. It’s a reason for days missed from work and visits to the emergency room. Every one of us is affected by the issue of domestic violence in one way or another. It may be your neighbor, your sister, your friend, or a co-worker, but it is likely very close to home.
  4. How can I tell if my relationship is abusive?

    Abuse can take many forms and can sometimes begin subtly. If you find yourself walking on egg shells, changing your behavior to prevent a violent outburst, or if you’re ever afraid of your partner, these are warning signs that should not be ignored. If your partner humiliates you, is ever physically violent, or threatens violence, these are clear signs of an unhealthy relationship. If the abuse occurs in a pattern of tension building followed by a violent outburst, and then apologies, gifts, and extra sweet behavior with promises of change -- and then the pattern repeats -- this is a cycle of violence. The situation probably will not change without intervention, and is likely to get progressively worse.

    Cycle of Violence

    • Phase 1 – Tension Building
      • Abuser starts to get angry
      • The victim feels the need to try to keep the abuser calm
      • The level of tension is high
      • Victims often describe a feeling of “walking on egg shells”
      • Trying not to “set him off”
    • Phase 2 – Explosive Incident
      • May be physical, emotional, or sexual
    • Phase 3 – Honeymoon Phase – Hearts and Flowers
      • The abuser apologizes and promises to change
      • Sometimes there is minimizing -- “it wasn’t that bad”
      • The abuser may give gifts, extra special treatment
      • Victim hopes that the abuser will change
    The cycle repeats. The timing may vary, but usually the cycle begins to shorten and increase in intensity over time.
  5. Should I believe my partner will change?
    Violence is a learned behavior and can be unlearned, although it is often tied to a belief system about how relationships are. Because these beliefs may have come from childhood experiences and have been in place for a long time, they will likely be difficult to change. It will take accountability on the part of the abuser, and an end to blaming others for violent behavior, in order for it to stop. Couples counseling is not recommended when there is active violence because it is not safe. Individual counseling and separate group counseling sessions may help each partner address issues that can lead them to come together in a non-violent way in the future.
  6. How do I know if my partner is really dangerous?
    There is no exact way to know how dangerous your partner might be but there are some predictors that are of grave concern.
    • Threats of suicide or homicide or fantasies about killing
    • Weapons in the home -- guns in the home are very dangerous in an abusive relationship
    • If the police have been called more than once, especially if the abuser has little regard for consequences
    • Feelings of ownership of the victim, extreme possessiveness, or unfounded jealousy