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ALERTA DE SEGURIDAD: El uso de una computadora puede ser identificado y actividades en la internet nunca pueden ser totalmente eliminadas del disco duro. Si piensas que tu uso de computadora posiblemente esta siendo monitoriado favor de encontrar un  lugar seguro donde puedas navegar la red social, por ejemplo la casa de una amistad confiable o la biblioteca publica. O llama a nuestra  linea de Violencia Domestica disponible las 24 horas al 707-255-NEWS (6397) si te encuentras en el Valle de Napa, o a este (800) 799-7233 si te encuentras fuera del Condado de Napa. Si estas visitando nuestra pagina y necesitas salirte rapidamente a una pagina no relacionada, oprime el boton rojo de ESCAPE arriba en la esquina de la mano derecha y seras desviado/a. Favor de probar este función en su computadara AHORA MISMO para asegurarse que se sienta comodo/a usando esta función.

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707-255-NEWS (6397)

24 HOUR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND SEXUAL ABUSE HELP LINE
LINEA DE AYUDA LAS 24 HORAS PARA VIOLENCIA DOMESTICA Y ABUSO SEXUAL

1-800-799-7233

OUTSIDE OF NAPA COUNTY
FUERA DEL CONDADO DE NAPA

Safety & Prevention

Clients staying at the shelter, or safe house, have typically obtained a restraining order against the person who abused them.  Having this order protects them and the other residents of the shelter from the batterer (see Legal FAQs for information about obtaining a restraining order).  The clients in the shelter have also agreed to keep the location confidential and not reveal it to anyone.  A safety plan is developed for each family with the help of a trained Domestic Violence Counselor who will continue to work with them throughout the time they are living at the safe house. If you feel you may be in need of shelter, there are counselors available 24/7 who will talk with you about this option.  Call 255-NEWS (6397) anytime.

Safety Planning for Victims of Abuse

A Safety Planning Checklist is located HERE.

What is a Safety Plan?

  • A safety plan is a list of ideas that you can use to help increase your safety.
  • A safety plan can be critical if you are considering taking steps to change your current situation.
  • Safety plans will change as new situations arise, so they must be revised frequently.
  • Advocates can help you assess your current situation and create an individualized safety plan with you.
  • Use your instincts and judgment, think about what you will or will not say to the abuser during a violent incident.

Safety When Preparing to Leave

Remember—leaving can be a dangerous time.
Batterers can become upset and more dangerous when they believe that you are leaving the relationship.

  • If you choose to leave your partner, make a safety plan.
  • Choose a safe place to go. Choose people who you trust and who can help you if you leave.
  • Leave money, extra keys, copies of important documents, and clothes with someone you trust.
  • Open a savings account in your name and have the statements sent to a relative or friend.
  • If the batterer has access to weapons, has threatened homicide or suicide, has stalked you, or abuses drugs or alcohol, you may be in severe danger.
  • Consult with a NEWS advocate who can inform you of your rights, options and resources.

Safety in the Moment

You cannot always avoid a violent incident, so create a safety plan.

  • Determine who you would call for help in a violent situation. Make note of friends’, relatives’, neighbors’, police, and hotline numbers.
  • Memorize emergency phone numbers or keep them on small cards in a safe place.
  • If the abuser has a key to your house or apartment, change or add locks on your doors and windows as soon as possible.
  • Practice getting out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, elevators, or stairs would be best.
  • Avoid rooms with no exits, like a bathroom, and rooms with weapons, like the kitchen.
  • Decide and plan where you will go if you leave your home in an emergency situation.
  • Have a packed bag ready and keep it in a secret but accessible place so you can leave quickly (see checklist).
  • Identify a neighbor, family member, or friend you can tell about the violence and ask them to call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home. Create a signal for them to call the police—like if a certain light is on or a shade pulled down—or a code word.
  • Get medical attention if you are hurt in any way.
  • Speak with a NEWS advocate who can inform you of your rights and options.

Safety with Children

  • NEWS has a Kids Exposed to Domestic Violence (KEDS) program with advocates that can help you make a plan to help your children.
  • Teach children not to get in the middle of a fight—even if they think they are helping.
  • When children are old enough, practice calling 911 and teach them a safe place to go during a violent incident.
  • Inform your children’s daycare or school about who has permission to pick-up your children.
  • Talk to your children about who they can trust.
  • Discuss safety strategies with children who have unsupervised visits with the abuser.

Safety with a Protective Order

  • Protective orders do not guarantee complete safety, but can be a good idea if you fear retaliation from the batterer for leaving the abuse.
  • Consult with a NEWS Advocate for help with the process of obtaining a protective order.
  • Show the judge any pictures of injuries.
  • Make extra copies of the protective order and keep them with you at all times. Also keep copies in a safe place like: your car, at friends’ or relatives’ homes, at work, and at your children’s daycare or school.
  • Inform family, friends, neighbors, employers, your physician or health care provider, and your children’s daycare or school that you have a protective order in effect.
  • Screen your calls. If necessary, keep a record of all contact a batterer makes, such as phone calls, text messages, voice mail messages, and emails.
  • If you move to another town or state, remember that the protective order is still valid. It is a good idea to register the protective order in your new town with the police.
  • Call the police if your abuser does something the protective order says not to do—this is a violation.

Safety on the Job and in Public

  • Change your route from and to work frequently.
  • Provide your employer with a current picture of the abuser.
  • Determine who can help you, while at work or in the public. Try to find a “safe” person at work, so they can look out for you. Provide a picture of the abuser if necessary.
  • Have someone escort you to your car, bus or train. Create a plan for what you would do if something happened while in public.
  • Have a co-worker screen incoming telephone calls, and document anything harassing.
  • Make sure your employer has up-to-date emergency information.
  • When you are out in public, be aware of your surroundings.

Safety and Technology

It’s easy to track your personal information on the internet

  • Abusers may be able to track your recent history on the internet if they have access to the computer you use. Using a public computer, such as one at a local library, a friend’s computer or a computer at your work may prevent your abuser from tracking your activities online. Clear your browsing history as frequently as possible.
  • If an abuser knows the password to your email account, they may be able to read your mail. Try to change it to something no one will be able to guess or create a new email account that only you will know.

Safety and Your Emotional Health

  • Find someone you can talk to freely and openly and who can help you feel supported. If you want reassurances from others who have been through similar situations, you may find this at a NEWS support group.
  • Find something you like to do for yourself. You deserve to have happiness in your life.
  • If you are thinking of returning home, discuss your safety plan with someone you trust.
  • Try to go through a third person if you need to communicate with the batterer.
  • Keep in contact with a NEWS advocate, attend a support group, consider counseling and other services that might be helpful.

Because everyone deserves a safe place to call home